Being Single on Valentine’s Day Doesn’t Have to be a Drag.
Valentine’s Day can really suck. This time of year, there is so much attention paid to having a partner or the pursuit of romance that people lose sight of what really matters: love. This Valentine’s Day, rather than focusing on the One that Got Away or finding The One, take a good hard look at how great you currently are.
Valentine’s Day is all about love, not necessarily the Hallmark definition of it! Self-love is the best love that you can ever receive. Here are some tips to help make this Valentine’s Day the best, ever.
You are the most important person in your life. Look at what you’ve accomplished since this time last year and celebrate it!
You do not need permission to Treat Yo Self.
Do something that makes you feel good; embracing who you are is a critical part of self-love. Take time to put a mani/pedi/facial/blow out/champagne extravaganza on your schedule or getting your friends together to go on a long hike.
Check in with Your Girlfriends
Plan something special with your friends in celebration of love. Just because you aren’t in a relationship w/ someone doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy the company of others. Valentine’s Day shouldn’t make you feel like a social pariah! Plan something special ahead of time after you’re done treating yourself or ask them if they would like to join you for a party at Dry Bar (there is champagne there, just sayin’!)
Get crafty with it; make some ‘Love Sucks’ embroidery and have a great time expressing yourself. Host a party that night and encourage all of your friends to dress up and come over for cocktails. Put on your best freak ‘em dress and scare the neighbors! Love only sucks when you want it to.
Laugh it Up
Laughter is the best medicine. If you need a pick me up, check out Jen Kirkman’s new special, which celebrates being single after a divorce (and being single after the age of 40) entitled ‘Just Keep Living’ and it’s available on Netflix.
Binge all of the first season of Chelsea Handler’s new show (also on Netflix). Chelsea is the Queen of ‘BE SINGLE AND LOVE YOURSELF!’ in addition to being a New York Times bestseller.
If you’re in dire need of a new podcast to keep you sane while you commute to work on this special day, Two Dope Queens has hours of entertainment that will both lift you up and make you laugh in public.
You are the most important person in your world on this sacred of days. Self-love is the most important love that you will ever have. After all, in the eternal words of RuPaul, if you can’t love yourself how the hell are you going to love somebody else.
Celebrating Valentine’s Day with my Number One Boo: Me
Celebrating Valentine’s Day as a single person is not as bad as it is often times made out to be. For those of us with birthdays during the month of February that means an abundance of candy, red roses, and oversize stuffed animals. My birthday happens to fall the day before Valentine’s Day on Galentine’s Day.
Celebrating Valentine’s Day as a single lady can be great (link to article about how to celebrate as a single lady). In order to ensure that both my birthday and Valentine’s Day does not suck, this year I decided to be my own Valentine. While I wait for Cupid to show up there is nothing wrong with supplementing my diet with Reese’s peanut butter cup hearts, especially not after they go on sale. My Valentine’s Day plan is simple: extend radical love to myself.
This year, I deserve a Valentine’s Day like no other. In order to execute the Best Valentine’s Day ever, all I need to do is check in with myself. Rather than waiting for a significant other to buy me flowers, candy, or even a nice piece of jewelry I can buy all of those things. It is easier to know what you want versus facing disappointment when things do not go exactly as planned. Valentine’s Day is the holiday for all hopeless romantics!
Last year, I broke up with a man-boy who maintained he couldn’t buy me flowers because he just didn’t have to money to do so. He had the money to buy beer and cigarettes so BYE BOY. On February 14th, I will be parading into the office with the most ostentatious bouquet I can find (there are beautiful flowers for sale everywhere in Center City and they don’t cost a schmillion bucks). I deserve that bouquet.
My attire? It will be sickening. My coworkers have agreed to take me to lunch for my birthday on the 14th so I plan on balling out. I might as for whatever I order to have guacamole on it because self-love starts with guacamole.
After work, the world is my oyster. There are so many fantastic places to eat in Philadelphia that it doesn’t even matter that it’s Valentine’s Day. My friends are in total agreement that our evening will involve copious amounts of food and city-specials (A PBR and a shot of whiskey).
Celebrating ‘me’ isn’t hard. Loving yourself is one of the best things that anyone can do. Giving yourself the gift of self-care is harder than people think. Accepting you for the great person that you are can a life long struggle. Making decisions regarding what you can do as a single person on an emotionally vulnerable holiday means you are putting back into your emotional bank versus taking out. One last thing I plan on doing on V-Day; avoiding the Internet. If you are anything like me, social media can ruin your whole day. Social media is great but there is no need to see overstuffed teddy bears and flowers that aren’t being sent to you. My day will be about MOI, the greatest love of all.
About The Author
Brooke is a 30 something, hell bent on finishing her book and conquering the world. She currently lives in South Philadelphia, and tweets @thewordsisaid.